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Wake up and smell the Madonna-Whore dichotomy

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Entertainment Weekly’s Tanner Stransky on Rihanna’s revealing cover photo on January’s GQ: “I guess the two things—her speaking out against domestic abuse and taking off her clothes—are  not mutually exclusive. But it’s a sort of odd dichotomy, if you ask me.” [Source]

Really. Wake up and smell the Madonna-Whore dichotomy, Tanner.

Excuse my pedantry, but I can’t get past Tanner’s apparent attempt at dodging what’s being said in that quote. A dichotomy is a division into two mutually exclusive or contradictory entities, so saying the two things aren’t mutually exclusive and then saying they are is just a bit, well, to quote Tanner, odd. Feels to me like Tanner’s paying lip-service to the idea of women’s rights while making sure we know what he really thinks.

When a woman gets abused we look for reasons. And the number one reason? She was asking for it by dressing scantily, drinking or taking drugs, being angry or mouthy, or being sexually active. So the best way to protect yourself from violence is to dress and act demurely.

Whores get what they deserve. Madonnas don’t get hurt.

Bullshit.

I can see Tanner’s confusion here. Rihanna was abused and now she’s speaking out against domestic violence. But, how can that be if she’s posing in short-shorts with her shirt off and her hands barely covering her breasts? (“Yowza,” Tanner says.) How can she properly teach our girls to be Madonnas when she’s a Whore?

Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit.

No woman ever asks to be abused. It doesn’t matter what she wears or how she speaks, she is not asking for it. Saying she asked for it is an excuse to make the abuser seem less responsible for his actions. There’s no dichotomy here, there’s just a woman who speaks out against what she went through and goes on living her life. Deal with it.

Related posts by Tamara:
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RESOURCES
It’s Okay to Want to Stay (Rihanna and Chris Brown)
An Open Letter to Chris Brown

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Written by tldegray

December 17, 2009 at 10:42 pm

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