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An open letter to Chris Brown.

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“I intend to live my life so that I am truly worthy of the word ‘rolemodel’.” –Chris Brown, video apology

“My thoughts basically now is just, ‘Ok, How do we get past it? ‘How do you, Chris, go from point A to point B? How do you learn from your mistake, turn it into a positive and help other people with this situation and at the end of the day become the person that you want to be?’” –Chris Brown, MTV interview

“The steps that I’ve taken to show that I’m sorry probably have been perceived wrong. … At the end of the day, I’m definitely remorseful and it’s not something that I take lightly or think that it’s like under the rug.” –Chris Brown, Wendy Williams Show

Chris–can I call you Chris?–allow me to explain because I think I know why people don’t think you’re remorseful. There are a great many “I” statements in your apology and your interviews. You talk a lot about you, how you feel, how you want to move on, how you want to help others. But, Chris, this is not about you. I know you think it is since you’re the one being asked and you’re the one being criticized, but this is not about you. It’s about what happened. It’s about how you harmed someone. At the end of the day, how you feel misunderstood doesn’t really matter all that much.

It’s great, really, that you want to live up to being a rolemodel and that you want to go forward. Maybe, though, before you do you should take a few more moments to acknowledge what you did. Truly own your actions. Apologize for what you actually did, not for feeling you disappointed yourself and others. Stop making it all about you, Chris, because it isn’t. Until you do that, you can’t move forward. You can’t be the person you want to be until you face the person you are.

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Written by tldegray

November 14, 2009 at 10:03 am

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  1. Meh. He’s unrepentant, and he’s done. Boy done messed with Jay-Z’s ject and hitmaker. He better stop apologizing, deal with his anger issues (STOP beating women, for one) , go back to school, com back in the industry in ten years and hope that some other celebrity gets nailed with SO-abuse charges.

    Rihanna is Not Perfect, and is reputed to have quite a temper, but even that is no excuse for his losss of control. The incident on the day of the Grammys was not the first time he hit her. She is well rid of him.

    Richard Jobity

    November 14, 2009 at 11:33 am

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